At the beginning of this year I was going through a rough patch(that has thankfully ENDED). I had been living in Sydney for two years, I had a wonderful girlfriend and a reasonably good job. After two years of this I decided that it was time to move back down to Ole Melbourne town and get on with my life. So I did!
After a few months of being back home I was still fairly “depressed” (I don’t think for a second I was clinically depressed I just use that word to convey that I felt “sad”) and it was during this time that I received a call from an old family friend who was “concerned” with my depression. This guy ran workshops that were basically full of new age mumbo jumbo ie. Fire-walking, humming, meditation, group-hugging, homeopathy, Applied Kinesiology . You know, Woo. So anyway, back at this time I was slightly partial to the Woo so I seriously considered going to this workshop which was apparently about confidence.
One thing that did run through my mind during this time was “Why is this guy calling me now if he is so concerned with my mental well being? He hasn’t spoken to me in three years!”. So this was a major warning light for me. Oh, that, and the fact that I had to pay upwards of four hundred dollars to attend this workshop. (I was told I could pay it in installments, Yay.)
I’ll come clean now, I have been to some of these workshops when I was younger with my father as a bonding thing. We did some fire walking and a “magical” test of our confidence and trust where we snapped an arrow on our throats. The tip of the arrow pressed into the little gap underneath your Adams apple and the end of the arrow in a wooden board that is held by a partner. You then step towards you partner and then the arrow breaks (hopefully), fairly nerve racking at the time. I’m not sure if my dad payed for this workshop but I have a feeling we got this one for free.
Anyway, this guy called me about 3 times in a month trying to rope me into his workshop until eventually I told him I wasn’t interested. It’s very important that you stand up for yourself when it comes to these sort of situation. I am sure that someone of lesser conviction would have given in and attended the workshop and in the process lose $400+.
I guess the reason I bring this incident up is because I wanted to warn other young people out there who don’t know how to say no or don’t know that this sort of workshop is basically bullshit! I understand that these workshops seem to help people. But at what cost?
Keep your eyes, ears and mind open and really question someone’s motives if they come to “aid” you in hard times.